At a more subtle level, however, narcissism is something that dogs many of us and we might never notice it. Is my drive to succeed in ministry really about me (self-absorption) or about God? Is our tendency to hold on to material things with a tight hand (often being stingy with God and others about self-centeredness and fear of not having enough or about generosity and an open hand? Does our desire or need for the applause of others, fancy titles, or authority reflect Jesus or our own egotism? Even overconfidence in our decisions can reflect a significant level of narcissism which is why supremely confident leaders rarely listen to the advice or push back of others.
On the part of leaders, here are some of the behaviors that reflect a level of narcissism.
- Taking credit for work performed by others
- Needing the limelight
- Not listening to the input of others
- Needing to get one's way
- Supreme confidence in all decisions
- A need to be at the center of attention
- Being stingy on thank you's and platforming others
- Insecurity with staff who are better at something than themselves
- Poor treatment of others
- A critical spirit
- Using others for our own agendas
- Focus on ourselves and our issues to the exclusion of the needs of others.
- Quick anger when things don't go our own way
- Being jealous of the success of others
- Needing to be in charge
- Not apologizing for failures
Posted from Grand Rapids, MI
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