We give each other grace
Boards debate ideas and
options and must deal with difficult decisions. Without grace toward one
another and each other's viewpoints, conflict can create animosity and
relational issues. Grace allows us to wade in and speak truthfully in a context
of peace.
We speak the truth as we understand it
Unless we share what is
actually on our minds, issues cannot be properly discussed, and options are
left unaddressed. Too many board members are unwilling to speak candidly in
meetings and end up talking about the issues elsewhere or living with
frustration. Grace allows candid dialogue. We are responsible for sharing the
truth as we understand it.
We show patience toward one
another especially when we disagree
Disagreements are inevitable
on a board. In fact, if there was no disagreement, a board would not be
necessary. It is in the confluence of opinions, options and ideas that the best
decisions are made. But getting to those great ideas requires patience with one
another.
We
listen carefully
The
best board members are those who listen carefully and thoughtfully to others.
Wisdom cannot be mined without careful listening and evaluation. The best board
members are those who thoughtfully listen. When they speak others tend to
listen.
We meet without a personal
agenda
Boards exist for the good of
the organization and its mission. Decisions are not about us or getting our
way. It is what is best for the organization and its mission. Board members who
must have their own way hurt the work of the board and often the organization
itself.
We take a humble posture
Humility is at the heart of
all good leadership. Our leadership is not about us and we do not possess all
wisdom. The best leadership comes from humble leaders and board members who
believe that the best decisions are corporately made. Humble board members
learn at each meeting. Prideful members are simply focused on their own agenda.
We engage in robust dialogue
without hidden agendas or personal attacks
Robust dialogue is the coinage of good boards. The ability to speak truth, disagree, talk through issues and even be emotional or passionate about an issue. This is healthy with two caveats: No personal attacks - it is not about people but about the mission; and no hidden agendas but only honest dialogue.
