Growing health and effectiveness
Friday, September 24, 2021
Truths for life from Psalm 23: This weeks devotionals
Monday, September 20, 2021
Friday, September 17, 2021
Practicing "normalizing conversations" when there is conflict
There are many things that can introduce conflict or awkwardness into relationships: disagreements; words spoken; actions or even second hand conversations that come back to us. It can cause us to back away from a relationship, suspect that others don't have our best interests in mind and create an invisible wall between two individuals. It happens in families, among friends and in the workplace - anywhere we have key relationships.
It is also very easy to allow that conflict, misunderstanding or break in the relationship to linger, leaving a break in the relationship. The truth is, however, that in most cases, this break in relationship can be resolved. And we should always try.
Monday, September 13, 2021
The words of a leader
The two boys God gave me were highly sensitive growing up to the words and reactions of their parents. I remember one time giving one of them my "look" and he responded "Don't yell at me!" Actually I had not said anything but I had communicated with my body language and he had felt the message!
Leaders often do not appreciate how their words can hurt, wound, lift up or encourage those in their organization. Because they are leaders their words have extra weight which means that what they say and how they say it impacts people deeply, positively or negatively in significant ways. Their words carry more weight because people don't want to let them down and staff feel it deeply when words spoken carelessly come their way.
This means that leaders have a higher responsibility than others to filter and control their words (yes emails) and reactions so that they do not negatively impact others or send messages they don't want to send. While everyone has a responsibility to watch their words, this is absolutely true for leaders who set culture by their words. Their words have the power to uplift, help or wound and bring down,
Leaders should remember:
- Words of affirmation are huge.
- Careless passing words that construe disappointment or cynical can hurt.
- You can say a lot with body language. Be aware and careful.
- Measure your responses to control your emotions so that your emotions don't get in the way of the message.
- Think before one speaks: both about the message and the way it is delivered.
- If you are going to say hard things because you must, think carefully about how you do it and focus on behaviors rather than on motives. Your words carry extra weight so use them carefully!
Sunday, September 12, 2021
Unspoken Discussions on church boards and work teams
Church boards and work teams are notorious for their unspoken discussions! Those unspoken discussions are the issues that are present, that people know they are present, but that either individual board members or the board itself do not dare to discuss as a board. These are elephants in the room - often critical issues for the church that require being named and dealt with, but the board's culture mitigates against it.
Avoiding the Activity Trap
Thursday, September 9, 2021
The Six Way Fracturing of Evangelicalism by Michael Graham
The Six Way Fracturing of Evangelicalism by Michael Graham
This article explains a lot about the conflicts and divides within American Evangelicalism today